Keeping score with chores isn’t the best path to a high-quality relationship, instead doing work together helps in better relationship, a new research has revealed.
The study data points to two items that should have a permanent place on a father’s to-do list:
– Do housework alongside your spouse
– Spend quality time with the kids
“We found that it didn’t matter who did what, but how satisfied people were with the division of labour,” said Brigham Young University professor Erin Holmes.
“We found that when wives are doing work together with their husbands, they are more satisfied with the division of labour,” he said.
Holmes and scholars from the University of Missouri and Utah State University studied how 160 couples handled housework and child-rearing duties.
The study, which aimed to see what contributed to the quality of a marriage relationship, found that the most significant factor was the quality of the fathers’ relationship with their kids.
“For women, dad having a good relationship with the kids means that dad and mom are probably going to have a better relationship,” Holmes said.
The study measured father involvement in a number of ways – playing with kids, engaging in shared interests and providing teaching moments.
Most of the parents were between the ages of 25 and 30 and all of the couples had a child age 5 or younger.
“This stage of life, where couples have young children, is potentially really challenging for couples,” Holmes said.
The study was published in the Journal of Family Issues.